Are you spending an unhealthy amount of time analyzing the possible motive behind a ceratin ‘Like’, ‘Seen’ or ‘Add request’?
Congratulations, you have been Grey-Zoned.
The zone that is neither a possibility, neither an end story. That continuous limbo of hope and denial you will now live in. Fleeting between your yesterday and tomorrow.
Because social media is the new grey-zone. It’s probably worse than the friend zone. There are no labels here. Just a cute ‘Seen’ on an Instagram story and never an unfollow. The blurred boundaries here are really really smudged. There is no accountability, and thankfully, no confrontation.
How is this relevant?
For those bracketed here, the possibility of the unknown is a coveted mask of disgruntled acceptance yet feebly leaping hearts. The unasked “maybe” hanging somewhere subtly hidden in those many views and comments.
I am unable to decide if this is really working for or against us. I can truthfully say, it has contributed to my anxiety though. The possibility of something happening has left close ones spending hours feeding relatable content, just so that it deems appropriate for that certain someone who didn’t unfollow. Now, in a real-life scenario, a closed-door would mean you walk away, and the possibility of running into someone would be pretty much moot. But damn this social media! They are around, but not in reality. Their presence so real, their casual ‘likes’ on posts that matter, leaving you wondering if that should be counted as a move or not.
Where’s the handbook for virtual language on social media? What are they actually trying to say while saying nothing at all?
On one end, loyalty is becoming a poorly respected and almost forgotten entity, and on the other, social media has almost made being old school loyal impossible. I mean, is a ‘like’ on somebody’s picture (looking fabulous and all) or a hawkeye watching their stories contributing to micro-cheating? Or because it’s virtual it must be let to slide?
Is it truly the end of closure as we knew it because the possibilities are endless?
The human mind tends to latch on to the unlikeliest of them all because “hope” is what drives us all primarily. The ability to distinguish this for what it is, a mere mirage is crucial to our sanity. I have pondered upon this and concluded in my meager opinion, that hanging on to these shreds of random infinite possibilities is tearing through the very structure of the fabric that relationships are tenderly wrapped in.
I agree, this requires a strong sense of self-control and clarity about what can and cannot be. Even trying to traverse through your life with a soft back up or scrutinizing a person’s social media behavior, never lets us shut that door. The population that insists on leaving muddy footprints over somebody’s account for the thrill of it, or leaving them confused, I hope you know this is not what drives things forward in any case, it only lets you be stuck in a certain scenario that is simultaneously deceiving your past and your present.
Can this be a measure of loyalty, is open to debate. For now, I suggest cutting the cord on a day you feel is best, but if not, it’s best to believe that the “social media activity” is not a battle of emoting who is moving on better.
It might simply be shallow approval and nothing more. At least nothing that can match up to real human interactions.
Reverse Focus 
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